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Submitted by Rick on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 11:12am.
I don't even know where to begin with this. From The Olympian:
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Most likely the kids can tell
Submitted by Sarah on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 11:50am.Challenging situation, because when bullying and abusive behavior is taught at home, how much can school do?
We're going to blame bullying
Submitted by The Fire Inside on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 12:06pm.What is your take on the situ
Submitted by Sarah on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 12:10pm.It's personal choice. Some m
Submitted by The Fire Inside on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 12:19pm.Others may get into drugs or alcohol, not really making school a priority.
And then others are simply making a stupid decision, not caring about school because they may not realize the consequences of not having a high school diploma.
Citing external pressure to drop high school is a cop out. High school was a recent enough experience for me that I can tell you bullying is rare.
Are nasty comments made? You bet. Kids are the most ruthless breed around. I never saw a continued harrassment of someone and certainly not to the extent that someone would drop out of school over it.
If you simply inform administration the problem will be handled.
But not all kids are ruthless
Submitted by Robert Whitlock on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 2:22pm.Does it have to do with different styles of parenting?
Dependence on a program of strict disciplinarianism will only cause an increase in resentment among the kids, because they don't feel respected or listened to.
Sarah is right. The answer is to ask the kids what the problems are, and what they think would make it better.
With kids, when in doubt - ask questions.
Sounds like TFI is closer to
Submitted by FPK1 on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 2:33pm.You did not see it, does that
Submitted by Sarah on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 3:05pm.We can certainly agree to disagree on this.
Is my experience also valid, as a mother and community member?
Nope, that doesn't mean it di
Submitted by The Fire Inside on Wed, 11/23/2005 - 12:46pm.Is it an epidemic sweeping the school system? I would say no.
We, people, are in many ways no different from animals. Since the beginning of time there has been bullying, harrassment, and other forms of individuals trying to assert themselves as the dominant member in the party.
It's social Darwinism.
EDIT: Yes, your experience is valid. This isn't a subject where an experience would be invalid, since the vast majority of us probably went to school with peers. Even if one were homeschooled, they could talk about the positives and negatives of that as it is related to this subject.
I think one of the biggest pr
Submitted by FPK1 on Wed, 11/23/2005 - 1:28pm.Like Rick, I hardly know
Submitted by V-ster on Wed, 11/23/2005 - 11:51am.I hardly know where to begin with this topic. This is a very complex issue, to which we can say, "yes" to nearly every opinion mentioned.
While dropping out is a personal choice, I think that we need to look at the underlying issues. Getting into drugs and alcohol probably isn't the primary issue (I see this as a symptom)...going deeper, what kinds of supports do this kids have? How is the school environment structured to provide the support and safety needed? How are families supported in their parenting functions? What about how we value our youth? Not so long ago, teenagers had meaningful engagement in our world. So, if our society is structured in a way that they aren't allowed to participate, than we have to face the problems that this restriction creates.
TFI: Perhaps you didn't see much bullying, but it does happen in really big ways, covertly and overtly. I have a son who dropped out largely because of the bullying. He saw it in very big ways against vulnerable students. My son has always had an eye out for the under dog. At one point he stood up for one vulnerable student--the bully was tripping the student repeatedly in a supervised classroom--(In this instance the vulnerable kid was disciplined for disrupting the classroom), and my son ended up getting his face kicked in after school off of school property. The same kid continued to harrass him. How does the administration handle it? Well can they really with a fair process? This activity did not happen on school grounds under the administations authority. It becomes a civil assault issue. Was the perpertrator ever punished for picking on vulnerable kids? No. Because without and adult witness, than it becomes word against word. (Also Note: In Washington State, we've passed several anti-bullying pieces of legislation. If it's not a problem, than it makes me wonder why the legislation exists?)
Back to Rick's local story post, equal to the educational system and environment, meaningful involvement, and valuing our youth, I suspect the problem of classism exists.
A local school principal once
Submitted by Sarah on Wed, 11/23/2005 - 12:10pm.A mother of a biracial daughter told me that in the Oly school district her daughter was abused, bullied, treated cruelly. In Thurston, she thrived.
Classism, racism, homophobia, and more exists and people suffer.
What I have seen over the yea
Submitted by OlyCop on Tue, 11/22/2005 - 9:01pm.At the risk of sounding like a broken record, TFI is on the mark.
I graduated high school 9 1/2
Submitted by Rob Richards on Wed, 11/23/2005 - 2:25pm.When I got to high school, things changed. Now I had to do homework as well as pass the tests. I still passed the tests, and did enough homework to get a passing grade, which means a 'D'. One thing I remember clearly is the classes that I did well in. These are the classes I had fun in, and was challenged by. My freshman english teacher, who I think saw that I needed a challenge, put me in for sophomore honors english, after I failed freshman english. I loved honors english, and passed with flying colors. The same freshman english teacher, Mrs. Keddington, taught journalism, and I was on the school paper my entire high school career. I loved this, the independence and challenge that was given to me was an environment I thrived in. Other classes and teachers just didn't do this for me.
What I'm trying to get to, is that from my perspective, school just isn't challenging enough. It is not geared toward individual students, it's geared toward the entire school's performance in standardized testing. It's kind of like someone going on a diet. There are all of these diets out there that claim to make you lose weight, but they are not designed for you. They are designed for thousands of people. Maybe millions. Schools should do away with the system of testing and reinvest in the individual student. Find out what Billy needs, what Susie needs. Challenge Billy and Susie in a way unique to them. I think, as an added bonus, fostering a culture of individualism would do away with a lot of bullying that goes on.
Rob, that's the parents job.
Submitted by FPK1 on Wed, 11/23/2005 - 3:43pm.